divorcing douchebags!

i know a lot of people complain about the douchebags in their lives. but sometimes, you find that one person who has a douchebag in their life by CHOICE. i have no idea why.

here's a situation: the more Person A mistreats (and by mistreat i mean, ANYTHING... imagine something you wouldn't want your friend to do to you) Person B in the name of love (romantic or platonic), the more Person B will resent Person A in the long run. Person B will eventually be surrounded with people who challenges their intellect and challenges them to be better by positive actions, energy and affirmation. Then the lasting thought Person B will have about Person A will be, "What a douche. Why did I keep s/he in my life for so long?"

here's what i think: id like to think (especially about the people i love and hold dear) that we all have the ability to realize our self-worth. and we all have the courage to do what it takes to sustain our integrity. and that, above all, we have the strength to let go of the things/people in our lives that just straight up hold us back. cuz friends that don't help you climb eventually help you fall right?

...and we all have those haterass friends that hate on every damn thing we do, right? i know you know what i'm talkin about! the kind that talk shit or make some snide comment about anything.. even if its what you bought your grandma for her birthday or just knockin you for going to church on sunday. i know you got at least ONE "friend" like that. (who you shouldn't keep as your damn friend anyway.. read on. i'll explain why.)

i'm done compromising my worth, integrity, happiness and self. at first, i thought i was at a "selfish" stage in life. but i realized two things. 1. looking out for my own ass is not selfish. because no one is on this planet was born to do that BUT me. 2. this isn't a stage. i made a pact with myself to divorce myself from all things that degrade my dignity.

whether it be lovers, friends or ex's who i try to stay friends with, i've peaced out to the people that hold me back.. i've especially peaced out to the ones who bring out the absolute worst version me. because honestly, just because we had a romantic or platonic connection in the past doesn't mean it holds true to the present. and, on everything, i have no hard feelings.

thoreau said, "things don't change, people do." ill always believe that because in the real world, people don't stay friends forever because they grow. or sometimes, one person grows and the other plateaus. whatever it may be, rising above the bullshit is the hardest part. once uve climbed to the top though.. there's no coming down. why would you want to?