yo. yo.

we've all either been there or know someone who has.  the "on again, off again" couple.

i understand when people break-up because need time to think about what they want in life  or whatever reason it may be.  the point of it all is to take space. 

what i don't understand is when people do it, but don't actually take the time and space needed to get their minds and hearts on the same page.  (i.e. "well, we're not together.. but we still do all the things couples do...")  like fuck--erh, excuse me, make love.  or sleep over. or share toothbrushes. or sunday funday brunches with each others families. et cetera. 

removing the title does not equal time and space, that just means you changed your shit on facebook. and the situation usually entails one person who knows that but still goes on with the quasi-relationship.  because that person knows that there's no guarantees.  and that person probably feels like if they don't go along with it, then the space and time might be infinite. 

the relationship begins to yo-yo.  because one person gets fed up with the situation then the other realizes what they are going to lose.  then things start going back into the same cycle.  then the other person realizes why they needed space to begin with.  then the other person asks for the space first.  then they don't want to give up the actions, just the invisible ties.

it's a confusingass heartbreakingly awful cycle that people never seem to break.  out of fear?  content with familiarity?

it's as simple as being about what you say and finishing what you start.  if you tell someone you actually care about you need space, then take the space to figure out why.  or how to fix whatever is holding you back.  i hate to see friends being led on, built up and then broken down.

and be strong when the person you love hits you with whats seems to be a sucka punch when they break the news to you.  remember you were an individual before you entered the relationship, and a lover is supposed to COMPLEMENT you, not complete you. 

because 9 times out of 10, when you're in love, you will follow the object of your affection through hell and back, blind-folded with your hands tied behind your back.  it's only fair that you have a good leader not just someone who is leading you on.